Drs. Philip R. Belzunce and Lalei E. Gutierrez share their expert insight to help couples and readers navigate through this delicate area by creating a "safe container"
CLEVELAND, June 11, 2013 /PRNewswire/ — Does it seem like you are not connecting with your partner or it feels like the communication in the relationship is being filtered? In their new book "Eight Pathways of Healing Love: Your Journey of Transformation" (ISBN 0985766603), Drs. Philip R. Belzunce and Lalei E. Gutierrez help readers navigate through this extremely delicate "blind spot" that many couples face in their relationship at one time or another – from the Pathway of Connection and Communication.
Connection is core to our survival. It is through our deepening connection that wellbeing, growth, and understanding are enhanced through how we practice the skills of communication and the processes for transformative conflict. Thus it is important that this broad range subject, however sensitive it may be, is brought to the forefront.
According to research, the divorce and separation rate is such that 6 out of 10 couples end up in separation or divorce within the first 7 to 10 years of marriage and that it is primarily caused by the inability to communicate, relationship conflict and a loss of connection in their conflicting differences.
In this Pathway of Connection and Communication, Drs. Belzunce and Gutierrez, a dynamic husband and wife team with over 60 years combined experience in couples and family therapy, and relational coaching, have found that in this broad and complex Pathway, there are simple ways for couples to maintain their connection when discussing "emotionally charged" issues by co-creating a BEEHMSSS™ (body, energy, emotion, heart, mind, soul, system, spirit) "safe container" for both to feel safely seen and heard. Conflictual issues are often emotionally charged like "hot water", which would need a safe container, like a cup, in order that the couple may be able to see it, hear it, and work with it. As couples intentionally co-create their safe container, they attend to their breathing, slowing down, and listening and take a stance of wonderment and checking with each other to feel seen and heard.
Kirkus Reviews writes, "Pointers abound [in Eight Pathways of Healing Love] for defusing heated communication, with examples of navigating difficult conversations and a recurring emphasis on being present – slowing breathing and hearing or expressing only what is happening in that instant."
They have created workshops, based upon the Eight Pathways, in which they demonstrate in detail how you can review the purpose of the Pathways in your relationship journey, become aware of what you may encounter in each Pathway, then harness the transforming opportunities embedded in your relational journey and utilize the practice tools and skills into your daily relational life.
Much more on the topic of connection, conflict and communication and the other Pathways can be found in the book: "Eight Pathways of Healing Love: Your Journey of Transformation" and is available for sale online at Amazon.com and other channels. For more information, visit www.eightpathways.com. To view the book trailer visit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZjgE1FjgBc
About the Authors: Drs. Phil Belzunce and Lalei Gutierrez are currently in private practice as holistic psychologists and board certified life and relations coaches and board certified polarity practitioners. In addition, they are faculty members at the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland and faculty members in the Diversity Management Program at Cleveland State University.
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